Tuesday, October 14

Someone asked me just the other day which topic/fetish is my favorite one to talk about. Hmmmmmm. Let’s see: femdom tease and denial? Now that one IS indeed fun, at least for me. And it will be fun for you too once you realize and come to accept as truth this little matter about you being properly denied. Which means forbidden to cum. Yes, forbidden. Left full, wretched and somehow still hungry for more. I am always so amazed at your inability to grasp the truth, your truth. To grasp onto the fact that I may just decide that today is not your day to cum. I don’t see it circled on the calendar, do you?

Thursday, September 25

Drag Queens Fight Against Facebook

RuPaul Joins Drag Queens' Fight Against Facebook

11:00 AM PST 09/24/2014                                 
Getty Images

The social media giant is forcing users to display real names on their profiles, which isn't sitting well with the several hundred drag performers who had their accounts deactivated

This story first appeared in the Oct. 3 issue of The Hollywood Reporter magazine.
Facebook has found itself at the center of a bitter fight with some well-heeled foes: drag performers who are livid that the social media giant has begun enforcing a policy that requires users to display real names on their profiles.
Several hundred drag queens -- and other performers who had built Facebook profiles around their stage names -- had their accounts deactivated after they were reported for failing to employ their real identities.
Opponents of the rule now are receiving support from a formidable force: RuPaul.
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"In showbiz, there's no such thing as bad publicity as long as they spell your name right," RuPaul tells THR. "But it's bad policy when Facebook strips the rights of creative individuals who have blossomed into something even more fabulous than the name their mama gave them."

Wednesday, September 24

What was so funny?  Call, beg, maybe . . .
and just maybe I'll share.

Check out my tumbler: http://mistressvanesa.tumblr.com/
and see a whole new angle on things!   Your Mistress, Vanesa.

Sunday, September 21

The Future of Sex?

Please share this article with others using the link below, do not cut & paste the article. http://www.ft.com/cms/s/0/2ce6b9e4-4177-11e4-a7b3-00144feabdc0.html#ixzz3E1EiwSEz Science fiction a step closer as Oculus virtual reality headsets near release Oculus ©Reuters Oculus is closing in on the consumer release of its Rift virtual reality headset, especially since the company was acquired by Facebook. Check out the link and the pictures of the headsets already designed. Good boy! Now, call me & let me know how it would make sexual things be between you and I! ~MsV

Tuesday, September 2

NEW September Specials forwarded from thedailyperv

Forwarded from thedailyperv NEW September Specials! Summer’s End! Booty Call of September Savings! Get Ass Deep in Kink and Save $15! One hour for $104 (reg. $119), 45 minutes for $84 (reg. $99), or 30 minutes for $74 (reg. $89)! Special valid one time only with each phone counselor through September 2014.

Spanking hot BOGO! Buy one, get one! Book any regular priced one-hour call for $119, and receive FREE a 30-minute call! Second call must be with same phone counselor, 24 hours after and within 10 days of initial call. Special valid as many times as you wish through September 2014!

Sorry, but monthly, VIP, and birthday specials can not be combined with any other special offers. All special offers do not apply to calls with Nancy and Dom Direct.

Check out my tumbler: http://mistressvanesa.tumblr.com/ and see a whole new angle on things! Warning! It's different!

Saturday, August 30

New Pic of New Fishnet Stockings with Double Seams

So, you say you're ready for the first of those four pictures? Well, I don't think you're quite ready. Maybe tomorrow. Maybe tomorrow you'll be ready. We'll see. follow me now: http://mistressvanesa.tumblr.com/ will show you a whole new angle on things.

                        In Dominance,
                                Mistress Vanesa.

For All of You Brownnosers

August Specials --
Get 'em while they're hot!

Teacher’s Pet Price! Save $20! $69 (reg. $89) for 30 minutes! Attn Brown-nosers: Special valid as many times as you wish through August 2014.

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Put your feet up Labor Day weekend and play long and hard! Save $30! Book a one-hour call for $89 (reg. $119)! Special valid one time with each phone counselor Friday Aug 29 - Tuesday, Sept 2, 2014.

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Friday, August 29

SAVE $30

Save $30! thedailyperv: Put your feet up Labor Day weekend and play long and hard! Save $30! Book a one-hour call for $89 #reg# $119#! Special valid one time with each phone counselor Aug 29 - Sept 2, 2014# Call me direct 541-440-6696 to ask me about all specials!

Thursday, August 21

My Ownership of You

Oh, my very favorite way to play with you!
You naked except for your leather collar &
your leash.  The leash of chain that holds you
to me . . . even if I did not hold this chain
padlocked to your sweating neck, I know
you would not stray for you prayed to
find me and are unwilling to risk losing
me.  Now, crawl!  Get right behind me and
crawl!  Keep your nose 5" from my pussy!  Did I keep
you from sniffing my sweaty panties before?  No!
But I did punish you did I not?    I know, darling one,
you do enjoy your punishments, don't you?  And on a
hot summer day I am especially certain that you will
be begging for your punishment. OK, over here
lover to this big old oak tree, right now!!
I have no patience left for you! 
Roll over! Feel these leather mittens on your hands and feel your chain now, sliding down from your collar, through your thighs, through your genitals, rendering you helpless. A few pics below of me laughing at you!

Rectal dilation and prostrate massages

  Nurses being trained in the administration of rectal
dilation and prostate massage techniques

Source:  lipstixxx.tumblr.com

Friday, August 1

I Love My UPS Girl!

I sometimes have no idea what is in one of those brown boxes that grace my front deck upon a regular basis.  I ADORE these ropes.  Made of cotton so they do not slip.  32' long, so you have enough to complete your tie.  And red & purple to wrap you pretty!
Add this incredibly sexy book (below) to the mix.
Face it, we all want to play with these toys!

Wednesday, July 30

One Way to Get In the Mood

Naked Man On Leash In W. Va. Could Face Charges

Couple Told Authorities It Was "A Consensual Sex Game"          

OHIO COUNTY, W. Va. – (KDKA) – A couple from Washington County could be facing charges after a bizarre incident Tuesday morning.

Yup, there they were at a busy four-way intersection on U.S. 40, a national road, at 9:30 a.m. Tuesday.

A naked man down on all fours, ankles bound, hood over his head, being walked on a leash by a woman wearing a purple nightgown.

“That was the weirdest day ever. Yep, I hope it the weirdest day ever,” said Lt. Nelson Croft, of the Sheriff’s Office in Ohio County, West Virginia.

A picture of the couple was snapped on a cell phone by a passing driver.

“We started knocking on doors,” says Lt. Croft.

Tips led to an apartment building on Roney’s Point Road.

“The female at first denied any involvement,” Lt. Croft said. “We had a witness positively identify her, and she admitted it, as did the male.”

The woman is identified as Barbara Jean “B.J.” Geardello, age 53, and her 56-year-old boyfriend, Robert Deyell, both are originally from Pennsylvania.

What were they doing? Possibly getting in the mood for the movie version of that best-selling novel, “Fifty Shades of Grey” coming soon to a theater near you.

Or perhaps, auditioning for a spot on the Discovery Channel’s over-exposed reality series, “Naked and Afraid.”

“They said it was consensual sex, a consensual sex game, and they were offended that people were stopping and calling them freaks,” Lt. Croft.

Cindy Hunter lives nearby.

“I was like, ‘Oh My God! He’s naked, and she’s walking a human being,’” she said.

Deyell, who told deputies he was a willing participant, was not seriously injured, says Lt. Croft.

“Except for ligature marks, obvious ligature marks on his feet and ankles,” he added. “Other than that, he denied any injury. We won’t go into the other thing.”

Neither Geardello nor Deyell has been charged yet.  The District Attorney is mulling over possibilities, likely indecent exposure.

Monday, July 28

Fun With Chemistry

Sometimes when people come into my house they ask me why my floors are so slippery. People like my parents don’t know about my kinks and when they visited yesterday, I told them some awkward story about how I had just cleaned and polished my floors. Everyone else knows that it’s really because of the two bottles picture below.
When dressing in latex, it’s really important to lube up the latex to help it slip on easily. The thing about silicone lube is that even the slightest amount can spread as a thin film over a hard surface such as hardwood floors. So, if even a trace of lube is left on my foot as I step around, or if the bottom hem of my rubber pants touch the ground, it is enough to turn my house into a slippery danger zone.

The other problem with silicone lube is that it is really, really expensive. A 1/2 litre of SwissNavy silicone lube is $50 at Priape, for example. A keen rubberist (or even someone that just really likes sex with silicone lube) is likely to go through 1/2 a litre in no time at all. Fortunately, there is an alternative for you. Look on any silicone lube and you’ll find that the two main ingredients are Cyclomethicone and Dimethicone (aka cyclopentasiloxane or Dow corning 350). Dimethicone constitutes the main body of silicone lube, while cyclomethicone is used as a thinner to help spread the dimethicone.  In Canada, you can pick up a gallon  (3.8 litres) of cosmetic grade Dimethicone here for $47 dollars (it ends up being about $75 dollars after shipping and taxes). Unfortunately, cyclomethicone isn’t sold in Canada for various (silly) reasons. It’s listed as a health risk, but is still sold as a component in hair products, but not individually. The Dimethicone I buy has a thickness of 350cst, which is too thick to use alone, but if you can find a place that sells 100-200cst, it might be thin enough without the cyclomethicone.
Otherwise, you need an awesome USA friend like twohandstochoke to run some up to you :). just saying. The nice thing about this arrangement is that you can also mix the lube to your desired consistency. Just mix cyclomethicone into a bottle of dimethicone until you have reached the desired slickness.
If you live in the USA, you can buy both components from someplace like Chemistry Store, with each gallon costing about $40 before taxes and shipping. Since I’m not in the USA, I have to estimate, but it would cost between $120-$150 for a total of 7.6 litres of silicone fluids.
I think the savings goes without saying. The nice thing about this arrangement is that you can also mix the lube to your desired consistency. Just mix cyclomethicone into a bottle of dimethicone until you have reached the desired slickness.
Btw, I don’t have any shares in aquatech or chemistry stores. Now go make up tons of lube and have fun! Also, follow me now: http://mistressvanesa.tumblr.com/ and see a whole new angle on things.
                        In Dominance,
                                Mistress Vanesa.

Sunday, July 27

Who Moved My Cheese?

Yes, once again changes in technology are forcing me to wake up and to make changes of my own in order to stay current with the times.

I hate change.

I am admitting to begrudgingly putting this change in action, and yet I do find myself becoming more and more willing. OK, honestly, I find myself becoming more willing to allow myself to be dragged along.

(I know, what the fuck is she carrying on about? Come on, Vanesa,
what the fuck are you talking about?)
Well, for starters, it appears that this little blog of mine will be becoming smaller and smaller . . . oh, you’ve already noticed the unwelcome erasure of posts and pictures? Yes, it has been rather erratic. A most uncomfortably bumpy road. And I am warning you, this is going to get worse before it gets better.

(What the fuck is she talking about?)
Gonna be moving this long-cherished blog where I reveal my mind (and body) bit by bit. I’m gonna move it bit by bit until it is a sexy, hot, coherent updated tumblr version. You will soon -well, fuck it’s summer, I have much to do- maybe someday you will be seeing my pictures posted at my new tumblr address:
No rush. Take your time. I intend to take mine.

Thursday, July 24

Play Time

I know you miss new entries in my blog. You miss new pictures, too.  But I am having WAY too much fun right now to sit at my laptop and behave like someone who has a modicum of self-respect in regards to actually working.  Check back, check my tumblr, and you have a great summer too!

Friday, June 27

Aaaaaaaa, home sweet home!

And playroom too!  Yes, the one you have seen pictures of over the last 4 years.  Anyway, home from San Fran/Seattle trip, catching up on returning your phone messages (I do thank you for leaving me those missives) and am hoping SO much to getting some of my digital photos up for you to see.  Now, off to bed!  I am exhausted!

Wednesday, October 23

The Witching Hour

Yes, it is almost the Witching Hour! Want me to see you in your costume? Call me up 541-440-6696
and politely request my one-way cam. No additional charges! Want to see mine too? Well, maybe you can.
See mine. (Additional charge does apply.) Meanwhile, enjoy this one from several years back!

Sunday, October 13


A few new mysteries in the air today, one arriving UPS.  (Just a side note, I LOVE my UPS guy! )  . Today, an unsigned gift was delivered.  I could see by the return address it was from Seattle, but I couldn't make sense of the 7 letters delineating a company name.  I ripped the package open, finding that two pairs of goodies from Wolford's were elegantly wrapped in Nancy Meyer tissue paper.  My eyes widened and I slipped the fishnet Twenties out.  I realized there was a card and opened it too, discovering that it had not been signed, inside nor out.
Which of you will be the one to claim your place as my secret admirer?   
PS Found my mystery submissive hiding in the corn fields . . .(as of 10-15-13). . . Thank you, too. Just in time for Halloween!

Monday, September 23


Mr. J. O'B:  I am happy to hear that you like the new pic on PEPLove.com
Here are the others from that set.
Try not to hurt yourself. 

Wednesday, September 18

OK to Play in Sweden

Home > National
Public masturbation not a crime: Swedish court
12 Sep 2013, 15:13
A man who openly masturbated on a Stockholm beach has been acquitted of sexual assault in court after it was ruled he was not targeting a specific person, with the prosecutor saying it's "okay" to play with yourself in public. Public masturbation not a crime: Swedish court The incident occurred on June 6th at the Drevviken beach when the man removed his shorts and began masturbating close to the water. He was subsequently charged with sexual assault. The Södertörn District Court has now acquitted the 65-year old in a judgement which stated that it "may be proven that the man exposed himself and masturbated on this occasion". However, the court added that no offence had been committed as the masturbating man was not pleasuring himself towards a specific person.

Friday, September 13

Wednesday, September 4

PDF for you to download & share with loved ones

Safe download for you to read, pass along, share.
Yes, I guarantee it is safe to download.
Surprisingly, it's not even pornographic so you can open anywhere!

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Wednesday, August 28

Home from San Francisco

Yes, I am home from San Francisco. 
And am so happy to be home again! 
Sexy corset from Seattle trip of about
six weeks ago, hot skirt (Hottbonds)
found with the assistance of our own
Sera Miles, fishnets & red shoes pulled
out of  playroom wardrobe. 

Love it when an outfit comes together! 
Makes me want to get YOUR situation all together. 
You would love to be helpless under my powerfulness,
especially helpless under that metallic red skirt.  Confess!

Wednesday, July 31


THE DUTIES OF A PERSONAL CUM-WHORE By Fannie Flame The day She decided to train frankie-boy to be Her personal cum-whore was filled with wet, slick anticipation and sadistic excitement. A professional Dominatrix, Vanesa often enjoyed two or three gentlemen callers a day, and on this exquisite day, two said gentlemen had expressed to Her a need: to experience a scene involving either forced bisexuality or forced homosexuality. One of these gentlemen expressed a profound desire to eat another man’s cum in a specific manner: He wanted to kneel at His Master’s feet, hands bound helplessly behind his back, while his mouth was forcefully fucked by a cock. “You want to eat someone else’s cum already?” She had teased him. “But you just ate Mine!” She had, after all, recently sent him a pair of Her cum-soaked panties. She grinned as She fell in love with a thrilling new idea. “I’m going to send you another pair of panties to suck on,” She teased. “A pair that is completely soaked not only by My cum, but also by My personal slut-slave’s cum too. THAT shall be the first step in fulfilling your fantasy.” Her personal slave-boy had indeed been a cum slut for the last several years and She found Herself rapidly graduating him from cum-slut to cum-wehore. Suddenly, She realized, his privilege of cumming would no longer be attached to a date on the calendar, or to an action he took; rather it would attach itself to the market demand for Her panties, particularly in cases where his stickiness was desired as an adjunct to Her sweet slickness. “I have every intention of exploiting this market of cocksucker wannabes,” She whispered to frankie-boy as She began to release him from bondage. “Surely I have stumbled across what has to be the most discreet form of cock-cum-eating ever invented. “frankie-boy, get this straight.” She held his face between Her hands and looked into his fearful eyes as he lay, still bound helplessly to Her massage table. “From now on, you will only be cumming when one of My clients expresses a desire to eat another man’s cum, mixed, of course, inextricably with my juices.” She paused. “Do you understand?” “Yes, Mistress,” he responded meekly. Then he burst, his mouth spewing concerns about how sporadic that was going to be; that he would NEVER know when he would get to cum, nor how often; he begged Her: no, please no! What would happen if suddenly no one wanted to buy Her panties? “Stop your sniveling! I have already sold this pair I have on and have gotten them soaking wet with My pussy juices.” As she released his hands from their silken bonds, she continued with her instructions. “Now, we’ll just wrap these silky panties around your cock. I want you to masturbate yourself to orgasm. Please do make sure that every last drop winds up on the inside crotch of those panties.” frankie reluctantly stroked his engorged cock with the wet panties, inhaling Mistress’ ripe juices. He hated to admit how turned on he was at the prospect of suddenly being Mistress’ cum-Whore, but the size and hardness and color of his most prized possession gave him away. Watch the PEP blog http://blog.peplove.com for the second half of this story. (Appx 4 to 5 more days.) NOTE:  The second half has been posted. Enjoy the PEP blog!

Monday, July 29

Seattle Secrets

What?  You expected me to post a picture of me trying on corsets?  Oh, no.  No, no!  You make me laugh at the very thought. Some parts of Seattle shall forever remain my secret.

Friday, July 19

A Piss Story

Before I learned how to write with words, I expressed myself with pictures, art. My mom always made sure I had a big pad to draw on, no matter how much it cut into our meager food budget. I only got crayons once a year and relied on charcoal pencils the rest of the time to outline the creativity that crowded my mind. I drew pictures of everything I saw, including images of men peeing—stick men, holding their penises, the demarcation of pee very clear in them all. I always used a broken line to express the piss being released from their cocks. I drew pages upon pages of men taking pisses; and, of course, they were of my father, as I had never seen any other man take a piss. I must have seen him early in the morning, for all of my stick men were naked, as he would have been when I watched him first thing in the dawning light. I remember laying in the grass with my three sisters on a lazy, hot summer afternoon. We were all trying to take advantage of what little shade there was under the sole tree in our front yard. It did not occur to me to hide my peeing stick men from my sisters as we crammed closer and closer together under the shade of that tree. It never occurred to me that there might be something “unacceptable” about my artwork. After all, wasn’t my artwork merely a reflection of my world? I did not realize how provocative my art was, until all of my sisters began pawing through the pages of my notebook, exclaiming over and over again: “I’m going to tell Mommy!” and “I’m going to tell Daddy!” They grabbed my precious art pad, and with it, my delicious fantasies of men holding their cocks in place while they pissed. To this day I am fascinated by piss play. The play I participate in does not involve a penis being held aloft, however. My delectable fantasies of men and piss, rather, involve the man being pissed on and, moreover, being pissed on by me—and pissed in as well. Ah yes, now my stick men are real and completely comply with my orders. “Lie still!” I command before I piss in your mouth. I love to bark orders, to use my booted foot to move your body into compliance. To slowly walk up your body, one foot on either side of you, letting loose with a stream of hot piss as I reach your groin. To watch your cock bounce around under the jet of wetness as I slowly continue my stroll toward your face. I stop the flow of urine as I pass up through your torso, only to let it loose again once you’ve obeyed my order to open your mouth. To not swallow. And then I squat about halfway down to show off my fountainhead as I fill your mouth to its lips. I cut off the flow once again and stare into your eyes, which are also full—with desire. I love how the fullness of piss in your mouth matches the fullness of humiliation in your eyes. Do know that I shall describe out loud to you exactly how aroused I can tell you are from having a woman piss on you, piss in you. Do know that I shall let you know exactly how fucking perverted I think you are. Swallow. Humiliation, arousal, piss, humiliation, arousal. My experience is much more direct: arousal, arousal, arousal. Do know that I will sit all the way down on your mouth, fill it with the last drops of my piss, and order you to lick me clean like a good piece of toilet paper.

And now, onto Seattle!

My summer travel schedule, once again updated!
I am currently home and will remain home today, tomorrow and Friday. (i.e., July 3, 4 and 5). These 3 days are the best time for you to call me this week!
Saturday July 6 in Eugene, I will be available to catch your call on my cell.
Sunday July 7 - Thurs July 11 in Seattle. I'll be at ball park 6PM - 10PM three nights in a row: Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. My phone will be OFF during baseball games! Other than that, however, I will be available for hello's and short appointments. You can also set short appointments via the S&M Inquiry Loveline (505) 255-9255
I would love for you to call me!


Wow!  I usually love to spend hours out of doors during the bright summery days, but today got SO hot I headed inside to the coolness of my living room and kitchen, drinking glass after glass of lemonade.  I DO keep my back bedroom window open to the heat of the day tho; I enjoy the heat captured from both the summer sun and the conversations I enjoy with you.  Who wants to have a hot call in an air conditioned room when sweating it out in the back room is so readily available?

Friday, July 12

Home again, call for hot details!

Hello.  I am back home from my forays into the great northwest, happy to report that sexy, hot, corsets and black strappy lingerie that poses as a dress are to be found.  Very hot sexy things in shoe stores, leather stores, high-end dress and lingerie stores.  Delicious things to eat, very lovely things to torture.  Yes, you do have to wait to see any of the pictures!  Oh, and lest you think I've forgotten, the Sox took two out of the three I attended.  Same cabbie 2 nights in a row?  How does that happen?  I would love for you to call me:  let's get caught up!

Friday, June 21

July Vacation (Dates amended)

My schedule, updated. Monday and Tuesday, (July 1 and 2) to PDX. Yes, seeing Twilight while up there! I will be available intermittently for your hello wherein you are scheduling your call at my whim. I won't be gone long, most likely be home by Tuesday early evening.
I will then be home for three complete days
(Wed., Th., Fri. i.e., July 3, 4 and 5). This would
be the best time for you to call me this week!
Saturday July 6 in Eugene, available to catch
your call on my cell, once again intermittently.
Sunday July 7 - Thurs July 11 in Seattle. I'll be at ball park 6PM - 10PM three nights in a row: Mon., T., Wed. My phone will be off during baseball games! Other than that, however, I will be available for hello's and short appointments. You can also set short appointments via
the S&M Inquiry Loveline (505) 255-9255
I would love for you to call me!

Sunday, June 16

More on tease & denial . . . again!

Such a blast to cum and cum and cum, knowing that today's slave-boy isn't cumming and he isn't GOING to be cumming either! Absolutely love it!

Sunday, May 26

To the Beach

Heads up sluts, slaves and whores! I will be at the beach May 28, 29 and 30. Call me Friday to grab the details while they are fresh in my mind. Ask nicely and I might even email you an unpublished picture. Yours in Dominance, ~Mistress Vanesa

Saturday, May 11

Read peplove's blog too!

http://blog.peplove.com/2013/05/10/vanesa-celebrates-masturbation-month.aspx At the very least, go there to enjoy the pictures!

Wednesday, May 8

The Barn

Yes, I have threatened more than a few of you with punishments of various kinds to be meted out in my barn. Spring breaks and my soul (and my genitals) leap to be outside, away from the dark dankness of winter dungeons. A picture here to give you something to think about. Do think about being held captive in this barn, held against your will. Yes, think about what I might enjoy doing to you during Masturbation Month of May!

Wednesday, April 17

Akin to the 2nd coming

Thank you New York Yankees for playing "Sweet Caroline" last night. I had a lump in my throat at your heartfelt expression of love and support. I know several of you freaks up in NYC and I love you more than ever! Your upcoming spankings are something I look forward to, with great pleasure.

Tuesday, April 16

Prayers to Boston

Oh my heart goes out to Boston, city, citizens and visitors. I wish that I could hold each and every one of you, quieting your terror, easing your pain. Oh to use this as a platform for my rage, my tears. As well a platform where first steps towards peace may be taken. It is tough to find forgiveness for those who inflict such pain, such anguish, for those who openly preach hatred against our country and our people. Do we already live in terror (if you say we don't, then explain the searches we are all forced to undergo at the airport)? Such sadness. Such tangled, jangling thoughts and feelings. Go hug everyone you love, and even those you don't. Hug them as if you did love them, and perhaps some day you will.

Wednesday, February 20


New twitter address: https://twitter.com/phonedomme Tweet, follow, I will follow you back.

Tuesday, February 19

My Ice Experiment

I have been experimenting with my key to my overnight bondage chains, wanting the slave to be securely locked up all night and yet free to bring me my strong, hot coffee in bed in the morning. Slowly, a few inches of water poured in the bottom of a coffee can, then frozen solid. Then another inch frozen. The padlock key placed upon that, with a third layer upon that. Upon the completion of that layer freezing, a fourth and final inch was poured. At bedtime I brought the coffee can into my bedroom: I had to make sure that the correct amount of ice was formed to allow my key to become available within the correct window of time! Rats! Too much water again! No slave could get my key free from that block of ice in time to serve my coffee. I shall be creating another, smaller one today, in preparation for tonight. all me for your progress report!

Saturday, February 16

My To Do List

Updates on my “To Do” list:

Get toes sucked
Tease, deny, torture
Assign individualized masturbation schedules
Control (your) breath with (my) spreading ass
Mail panties to (my) panty boys
Strip, blindfold, gag and mummify leaving (you) with only (your) sense of smell (of me)
Practice (on you) pantyhose bondage with old (my) pantyhose
Buy flat wooden hairbrush
Play strap-on games (with you) creating new levels of arousal
Dress the cross-dressers & cuckold the husbands!


Tuesday, January 29

What a Minx!

http://gravatar.com/sexxxysamantha is where you can find the beginnings of a blog written by one of my recent acquaintances. She is HOT to watch and even more fun to play with. Also, find her on http://fetishphoneblog.wordpress.com. Great name for her, huh? You may also dial her up at (505) 974-6840. http://0.gravatar.com/avatar/f8d4435e040891d318b1d3c9b8632f7f?s=60&d=identicon&r=G will take you to a picture of her vixen eyes. Ta ta!

Tuesday, January 15

Misspelled Missives Still Get Their Point Across

Yes. Yes, I am quite aware that 'cuckold' is indeed temporarily misspelled on the main website. Right next to my smiling face. Understand, I have grown rather grateful for it, as it has led you to pick up the phone and to dial me directly at my home phone number (541) 440-6696 and it has given you purpose to speak privately with me. Now, don't you feel better? No? Then do send a missive to my private mailbox: phonedomme@gmail.com You just never know what I will be wearing when I open it.

Friday, January 4

Being Powdered in a Latex Catsuit

At first it feels pretty cold, and the latex is unforgiving. More powder! More chalk! I have learned to put my catsuit on in front of my fireplace, dancing on bare feet trying to find warm brick. Dancing around naked except for the snakeskin outfit I am adhering to my warming extremities. It is fun to take the 3 - way zips and to run them up and down my body, exposing my pale skin which feels somehow most inappropriate and naughty. The suit is tight and warm, until you start playing with one of those zippers! Want to know more? (541) 440-6696

Sunday, January 3

A Happy, Healthy, Playful New Year

Watching History.com about rituals that various civilizations perform. One of them is where a man takes a very sharp stick and strikes his penis with a downward motion of his arm. I see he has on traditional make-up and clothing; the ritual is being performed at night. Paper is wrapped around the man's bleeding penis and once the bleeding stops the paper is thrown into the fire. The smoke trail that comes up from the fire creates the pathway to his ancestors, so he is now able to communicate with them. BDSM is still rich with ritual, we still engage in piercing men's penises, and when I hear a transcended sub repeating "Oh, God! Oh, God!" it makes me muse about how very far we have come. What do you think?

Friday, December 25

Merry Christmas to all!

Here's hoping you were NAUGHTY, not nice, and that you've earned a good healthy spanking/flogging/whipping from your own Dominant. I shall be administering my own forms of torture this evening, after the vanilla company in my home heads out. Yes, I do keep track of infractions, and yes, I know which punishment you dread the most. THAT is the one I shall personally choose to have fun inflicting upon you for your naughtiness over this last year. I do so love naughty submissive boys with a streak of onreyness! You are my FAVORITE Christmas gift of all! Hmmmmmm. Makes me purr just contemplating it. ~V

Monday, October 19

My voice

Make sure you are PRIVATE before you turn your speakers on and listen to this clip. It is from my X-rated website and should only be listened to by adults 21 years old and older. Enjoy!

Spooky Things

I used to be scared of the dark, locked hall closet, and after that I was a bit frightened at getting caught by the "real authorities" for vague indiscretions left just that way: vague. Today, what has my attention are two things, neither one of which I control. Just may be why they're front and center on my horizon! First thing I'm aware of that I'd love to control, yet won't be able to: third quarter earnings being posted this week. The second item is one that concerns Google and Yahoo in cahoots with new site submission maps and codes (just makes my longest whip seem too damn short to reach!) and the news now includes Microsoft climbing on board. May the computer Goddesses at large send a skilled websubster to my home! I have been having too much fun doing research this last month or so to even WANT to sit back down here for very long, enduring a long learning curve on site submission. And, all of you who follow my blog, please do remember: you are always welcome to pick up your phone, to dial me up, even if just to say hi, more especially if you're in the mood to be scared by ME! ~In Dominance, Mistress Vanesa

Tuesday, September 29


Now, researching takes much time, especially when one is researching and studying the art of domination, the depth and width of fetishes. Just consider this as you bitch about how unobtainable I have been as of late: I am immersed in research. And when I surface, shall you be the one I practice all my new-found wisdom on?

Tuesday, August 25

How to Reach Me

Lately, I have been contemplating how very much time I am spending in cyberspace, and how very thin I am spread in that arena. I belong to so many fetish/Domina/submissive domains I have to write down what the domain is, my user handle and my password. I simply cannot remember them all. Furthermore, I find myself doing things half-assed in order to keep up with all of this, and those of you who know me know that I am extremely detail-oriented and enjoy the concept of completeness.
To stay in touch with my activities, my schedules, my personal experiences, follow this blog. Anchor yourself into it as the only portal into my life, as soon it shall be.
I am in the process of carving out my own niche here and will no longer be updating any other places you might find traces of me.
No, not good-bye. I enjoy what I do FAR too much for that.
Simply choosing real-time activities over cyberspace maintenance activities.
You are always welcome to e-mail me, phonedomme@gmail.com.
You are always welcome to enjoy updates to my website, http://mistressvanesa.com,
And as always, you are more than welcome to call me at my home telephone number: 541.440.6696
I guess I learned more at that fetish camp-out last week-end than I knew!
Good-bye unending numbers of hours on the computer.
Hello to unending hours of actual real-time play, especially in these next few months. Outdoor bondage is something to behold!
Thank you for following, for staying close. I look forward to all the new real-time adventures I now have the freedom to embrace. As for you, embrace your fetish, your pleasure, your adventure! I look very much forward to hearing all about it.
In Dominance,
Mistress Vanesa

Friday, August 7

"Vintage Vanesa"

Today I dug out some of your fav pics from 2001, the year this all started! I actually figured out how to make a video of those pics, one with the old-fashioned reels of film. Just seemed to suit the theme! I have this video posted at YouTube now, so go check it out! My "handle" on YouTube is "MistressVanesa" and is very easy to search for. Let me know what you think, boys and girls, as I am considering doing one for 2003 next . . . a very, very interesting year! Oh, but I do get ahead of myself: 2002 would have to precede 2003, of course!
I want to take a moment to thank all of you who have touched my life. I am grateful for all that I have learned; for all that you have taught. Thank you also for following my blog, for following me on Twitter, and most of all, for picking up your phone just to say hi. In Dominance, Mistress Vanesa

Wednesday, July 29

Feeling Excitement

Oh, I am so excited to be making friends with this beautiful, smart and funny woman who lives fairly close to me. Met her via alt.com, so for those of you who are feeling down, feeling a bit hopeless, I urge you to try, try, try again to meet a special person! We are out there, and sometimes living in your very own city.
I am also excited about seeing my daughter for the first time since her little belly has started to show!
I am especially excited to be going camping at Leatherwoods in August. For any of you in the Oregon area who might like to go, check it out on Leatherwoods.org As the dates for this event become closer and closer, I shall keep you apprised, and yes, of course you will be FORCED to listen to all of the details when I return home.
I am also very excited about my first published video slide show. For those of you who would like to view it, please send me your email addy and a short, polite request. Long emails are just more than I choose to deal with, so please keep brevity on your uppermost line of thought, or I might just think of this lovely nozzle I have, a good sized one for an email that is too good-sized! Send your request to Mistress Vanesa c/o phonedomme@gmail.com Who knows, the pictures I send to you in the form of a slideshow just might be new ones that you have never before seen!

Sunday, July 5

Independence Day Musings

Domestic Domination has naturally evolved in my life since I moved to my big house in the country. It began due to the fact that my overly large bathroom has two sinks and cut-ins and mirrors all around, just perfect for dress-up play. Cross-dressers would come over to my house instead of to my dungeon. I would put them up extra close to the mirror when I was teaching them how to apply their make up. All of the mirrors up and down both sides of my dressing room and bathroom also allowed me to closely inspect how they were dressed, how they were presenting them self to the world. This layout further lent itself nicely to lingerie hand washing sessions, which inevitably led to mistakes. I would find myself using my bare hand on their bare bottom, spanking hard, while they kicked futilely over my knee. I found myself doing this more often than I would find myself doing what I had done for years: tying them straight and still for a punishment flogging.

I have become fond of such transformation sessions and while that specific means of play might not appeal to you, I present it to you, as that is how I came to understand how Domestic Domination and Discipline work for me in my real life.

I want to grab hold of you while you are immersed in your “real” world and then I want to make you aware that without moving out of the room, without changing anything physical really, I change your reality and you find yourself at the beautifully pedicured feet of a Domestic Disciplinist, a Domestic Dominatrix, who will not only inspect every inch of my living room that I have required you to dust, every inch of glass I have required you to clean, I shall also be inspecting YOU. Are you spotlessly clean inside and out?
Are your seams still straight up the back of your legs? Are your panties under or on top of the your garters? Or are your panties under your trousers all day as you labor at the office for me? When the sting of my hand turns your buns red, I will require you to go out into the back yard and to cut me a switch, which I shall use on you next. You will learn to cook my dinner while wearing a chastity device, to go shopping with me wearing a remote controlled butt plug. You will learn to wear slim, supple adorable collars that mark you as mine. You will learn exactly how to wash, dry and fold my myriad of lingerie and you shall always make my coffee strong and black. Yes, I desire the proverbial rose in the vase along with a different magazine with my coffee. In bed.

There is something so intimate about Domestic Domination. Think of it. When you are mine, in training, and you need punishment do you not think that you would be mortified if one of the neighbors witnessed it? Yes, there is something so very intimate about it that I believe it transcends all other forms of intimacy that might exist in a relationship between and Dominant woman and her submissive.

Monday, April 27

DES in your maternal history?

This week-end traveled to PDX to meet some ladies that are new to me, to meet once again with my first in-person client ever from clear back in 2001 and also to listen to my first grandchild’s heartbeat through the walls of flesh that create it’s current home. I fell in love and awe; my “priorities” in live fell away and then were quickly back, in quite the different order than they had been before.
The distance that has existed also fell away, on Saturday afternoon, as the young woman I call my daughter began to talk. As she talked, I realized that no one but mom could be the listener. I was honored to listen as the shards of secrecy dissipated, to listen and to listen . . . to hear more than I have heard in many years. I listened far into the hours of Saturday evening, not keeping other commitments I had made, not worried about what anybody would think of me for doing so, focused on listening to my daughter, aware that she was actually listening back when I spoke.
Visiting the waterbirthing center, meeting the doc and learning that DES ingestion by our mothers in the 50’ and 60’s to cure their morning sickness effects their granddaughters too, not just the daughters. PLEASE realize that DES was taken off the market in 1971 ~if your mother took it, please tell your doc about it. It is ESSENTIAL that they know that piece of your maternal history in order to keep you and your baby safe during the birthing process. Please feel free to call me should you need info about this, even if you did wind up being one of those I missed this week end!

Monday, April 20

Celebrating Birthday of 8 Years

Wow. The anniversary of my first call is next week, April 27, 2001. It makes me so happy that I am still having sexy, hot conversations with submissives I met that year! I remember another domina telling me, way back then, that my best teachers were going to be the submissives I encountered on my way. She was so right! So, to those of you who taught me, thank you. And for those of you whom I have taught, I thank you too. Touching you with my words, my thoughts, my hands has indeed been a joy.

Thursday, April 2

Taking Time to Play

It's funny, this burning desire that consumes me sometimes. To play. To bind. To make a submissive so dependent upon me that their very breath is based on my building on their gratitude. And yet I do know that there are many, many of you out there who understand how that desire starts and how it builds.

For me, it starts with the wisp of an idea floating across the front of my consciousness; then builds to a tease as I start reaching for that wisp, bringing it back close to examine, inspect, to blow breath into until it seems that every one of my deepening breaths is blowing life actively into the idea, the image, of play and my head begins to move slightly to my right, as my eyes close and I track my victim inside of my head, drawing them closer and closer to me until finally I open my eyes, refreshed in my spirit, my mind, energized to actively seek on a physical level the one I have focused on, the one who will not escape. The one who soothes one desire while awakening another. I do so love the interchange between bdsm play and lust!

Sunday, March 15

Donate Your Brain to Research

Consider Donating Your Brain to Research (When You're Through with it of Course!) By Mali Einen http://www.talkaboutsleep.com/

Tips on How to Approach That Special Mistress

I believe that Domination need not be just fantasy.I believe that it is possible to accomplish your sexual and/or fetish goals. All you have to do for now is set your concerns aside for a few short minutes in order to concentrate on this posting. Concentrate while I address a question put to me frequently by many of you and recently by Leo of Massachusettes: "How may I better prepare myself for having a conversation with you?"

Please do remember that when you are looking to approach a Mistress, Leo, being respectful of her knowledge and status is always a safe place to start. The above question is an excellent example of the level of respect you would want to demonstrate.

Also, Leo, please do recognize that a Mistress's responsibilities sometimes weigh her down. Therefore, rather than offering yourself as a toy (Oh, I’ll do anything [sexual] you want, Mistress, I'll do anything you want . . .) think of something new. (When I hear someone begging to "service" the Mistress it makes me laugh out loud to think of her [or myself] as an automobile in need of an oil change!)

To better prepare yourself, Leo, think of yourself as a tool I might use, as opposed to a toy I might not. Stop and really think about that. And then offer yourself in a new and different way. Something as simple as "Mistress, it looks as though you could use somebody to do your laundry, wash your windows, cook your meals, clean your floors, update your checkbook and proof read your websites. I would be deeply honored if you would allow me to help you with any or all of that."

I know you would capture my attention were you to utter those magical words to me! Who knows? Maybe when you're done washing my windows, I'll have you wash my panties next!

If you are too nervous to approach verbally, then write. We Mistresses love to receive mail! Oh, yes, and one more thing on that: please, when you send pictures of yourself, make sure that you are clothed and in your element. Are you a golfer? Show me a pic of you on the golf course. A scuba diver? I’d love to see you in your wet suit! When you send pictures of your erection, and your erection only, please do know I simply toss it on the pile of hundreds that I have already received and quickly forget who it belongs to.

Set yourself up for success! Send genuine requests, well-written SHORT e-mails and appropriate pictures. We Mistresses want to know you just as much as you want to know us, and I for one, merely require respect for my knowledge and status, just as I will be respective of yours in turn.

If there is one thing that I would like for you to learn from this short it is for you to understand that you set the tone for your own success when you approach a Mistress. Try using these simple strategies as outlined above and let me know how they help you when approaching that Mistress who currently has you tongue-tied!

Sunday, February 24

Very Special Training Program

Sensual domination has become my way of life. Nothing would please me more than for you to relinquish your very self to me. Your gift of submission is what brings me my pleasure; the thought of owning you, even if only for an hour, enraptures me.

My very special training sessions are based in operant conditioning theory. I find that this method of Female Domination achieves the most successful and the most long-lasting results. I also find that this method of discipline allows me to focus on you, one-on-one. While in training, you will be the sole focus of my curiosity, as well as of my perverse attention.

Bondage of a psychological manner is very appealing to me. The sounds of you bound to my soul, those sounds that I hear from you as you lose your ability to verbalize coherently, are exciting to me, for those sounds tell me that you are locked in an embrace with me, locked in a trance you are powerless to extricate yourself from. Your only release is with my permission.

Enter into my world of BD/SM and fantasy. Crossdressers, panty boys, novices and the guilt-ridden . . . you're ALL welcome to share with me your private, intimate, deeply held secret fantasies. Simply call me at my home, any time, day or night. 541.440.6696

Saturday, January 12

January 12, 2008

One of the more important "-ing" things that I, as a Mistress, engage in when "Mistressing" is Tease & Denial. Important because of how compliant it makes you, yes. How powerful it makes me, yes again. But more importantly, how very fucking sexy it is to know that you are at the end of your rope, begging me with eyes or words for permission to cum, and I toy with you, taking my time, listening to the subtle sounds uttered by your tortured soul, not giving you release today, lying to you about how you can have it IF you are a good boy and then luxuriating in my own orgasm, forcing you to watch, to listen, to smell, never yielding to your pleas to touch. It is all so terribly, sinfully delicious! Call me at my home now 541-440-6696 in order that you might learn to more properly listen!
In Dominance ~ Mistress Vanesa